Here are the highlights (lowlights?) of my personal story.
--Yup, I am married (but not before I was divorced and was just generally horrible at being in a relationship).
--I used to be a top notch people-pleaser, putting myself last, "so easy-going" and when I stopped doing that I went straight into shutting down. I did not understand there was an in between and it honestly was ruining my marriage.
--Then I realized there was a middle ground. A place where you can stand up for yourself in your relationships. Where I can think about me and you and us and be confident, know what I want and relational at the same time.
--I have spent years learning how to not only incorporate that middle ground into my own life and relationships, but helping others do the same.
--Because of that work I've done, I personally am in the best place I've ever been and so is my relationship with my husband.
And I can help you do that too.
In the membership, or working together one on one,
here are some of the other things I can help you with:
- building your self confidence
- reduce feelings of guilt
- stop second-guessing yourself
- negative self talk
- fear of abandonment
- the overwhelming urge to make sure no one is upset
- stopping the shame spiral
- feeling more hopeful
- reduce anxiety
- feel more comfortable speaking up
- create boundaries you can keep - without shutting down
- discover what you are really wanting for you!
Or better yet, If you're here because you know you need help with people pleasing and you've been hesitant to get the help you need, just join my monthly membership for women. You can do that here.
What others have said after working with me
"This people pleasing dies hard, but you get it and I appreciate that.
When I think it in my head it feels jumbled, but when I hear you say it it makes so much sense."
"I feel more confident saying no because if my no triggers you to not want to be with me then you can go because I should be able to say no.
And how valuable am I to you if you can’t respect my boundaries?"
"This is most helpful session I’ve had with anyone.
I like that you gave me actual coaching for how to handle things instead of just listening."
I have extensive training specific to working with relationships
In addition to having lived this in my own relationship, I am a Certified Relationship Coach
it's my belief that...
Everyone deserves to feel confident in themselves and have the opportunity to have a happy, healthy relationships with the important people in your life.
You need real life support and guidance. That's what I do.
